Old Age Homes
5527 WordsFeb 23rd, 201323 Pages
“What happens to parents when space is limited in the heart and homes of their children?
Old-age homes have become popular in Bangladesh. The traditional structure of a family of Bangladesh is turning into a fast, racy lifestyle, where ambitious youth are discarding the old values and in turn, their parents.
The parents are forced to live out their old age alone. An old man, once the head of the family is now a subdued member of a house of strangers. The woman who once happily cooked three meals a day is now forbidden from entering the community kitchen. There are no phones in the old-age center, and the residents know no one will ask for them. The wrinkles on their faces are as pronounced as the pains of being discarded. The…show more content…
Lastly I will put question when old homes can be beneficial for our country.
I intend to find answers to such questions through my research work. The primary data will be collected by interviewing and passing questionnaires to the general citizens of Dhaka city. To further clarify matters, I will take help from a wide range of interesting secondary sources. They mostly include the related materials published in the books, internet, newspapers, magazines, journals, reports, motion pictures and even in a song. By integrating my primary and secondary data, I hope to give conclusive evidence to support my hypothesis.
In brief, the hypothesis I am aiming to prove in this research is that, our parents do not deserve to live in an old home at their old age and the children of our country should keep their parents with them till their last breath.
Areas of Research
Through the research paper I intend to do my research about the following areas:
1. Introduction of old homes in Bangladesh.
a. When it was first introduced in Bangladesh?
b. Who organized these old homes?
c. What kind of elderly people first started to reside there?
My finding was from 1960, by a private initiative- Bangladesh Association for the Aged and Institute of Geriatric Medicine (BAAIGM) is working with the elderly issue for this country. This is way before any government action was taken. But the first old home was established in 1994 at Gazipur and the Nobel
The very concept of an old age home is new to India. An old age home is usually the place, a home for those old people who have no one to look after them or those who have been thrown out of their homes by their children. The place is of course like home where the inmates get all the facilities for a routine living, like food, clothing, and shelter.
All these necessities are well looked after but, the much-needed love, and care of loved ones is of course sadly missing; for, how can outsiders provide solace? In these homes, it is very interesting and even touching to talk to people whether they are men or women.
At least in India till now, the old people staying away from the home, from their children, or left to themselves is not considered to be a very happy situation. This concept of separating the elders from the youngsters has been imported into India from the West.
However, for the West it may not be so heart rending for, there, it is their original life style that two generations never stay under one roof. But, in India where, for centuries, not only two but also even three generations have lived together, this new concept of nuclear families with the elders ousted, is just too touching to bear.
If, in any home we talk to the inmates, their story would be much the same- turmoil in the family, disgust against the old and, finally the removal of the elders from the family scene. It is the family atmosphere, and being among their flesh and blood that, most of the old people miss at the old age home.
They do get their daily needs fulfilled but, from where will the love of the dear ones come? The stories of almost all the old people are the same and very dismal.
It is the breakup of the system of the joint family and the introduction of a nuclear family that has brought this unhappy situation enter our society, and the old age homes have had to come up to cater to the needs of the elderly.
Besides this, since the women have started working out of homes, there is now, no one to look after the routine needs of the elders at home. Also with the women working out come their attitudes towards the elders, for, today, the working women do not take the elders as their duty but as useless appendages in the family.
This attitude of the women has also largely contributed to the removal of elders from families. With this backdrop, the necessity for old age homes was felt, and is being increasingly felt with the passage of time. The entire spectrum of circumstances has led to this unhappy need for old age homes.
No matter how well they are looked after in these homes, a single visit to an old age home brings depression to the onlooker as, no one - Yes, no one seems to be happy there.
It is very clear to all who visit an old age home that, all the inmates are there, not for the love of being away from home and independent but, because there is no better alternative left for them, once they are neglected and unwanted in their homes by their own children.
The only solace is that, they are getting their daily requirements of shelter and food - if not the bonds of love from the family.